In our last post we talked about the road leading to marriage. In this post we ask ourselves, what is God’s plan for marriage?
Ephesians 5:22-23 states, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word.”
Here we see that wives are to submit to the spiritual leadership of their husbands just as the church is to submit to Christ. We also see that husbands are to love their wives and give themselves freely for them just as Christ gave himself for the church.
Husbands are to lead with the best intentions in mind for their wives. They are to give of themselves for the benefit of their wives, and this kind of servant leadership is what makes it possible for wives to trust their husbands as they make spiritual decisions for the family.
Genesis 2:24 reads, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
God intends for marriage to be a permanent commitment. The two are to become one. Separation is not part of God’s perfect plan for marriage, but in order for any marriage to work, both parties have to be willing to continually work at making it work. Marriage takes hard work but it is worth it because when both parties put the effort into their marriage, they experience a unity beyond anything else they can experience in life.
Hebrews 13:4 states, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
God intends for husbands and wives to be faithful to one another.
So What does God’s Biblical plan for marriage look like?
- In the Biblical view of marriage, husbands and wives are to view their commitment as a permanent commitment before the Lord.
- Ideally, Christians are only to marry Christians. In cases where someone becomes married and then becomes a Christian, both partners may not be believers, but those who are already believers are not to marry non-believers.
- In marriage spouses are to remain faithful to one another. They are to put the others needs above their own. They are to treat each other with respect. They are not to cheat on one another or take advantage of one another. They are not to use one another or abuse one another. They are to cherish one another so that their actions towards one another are categorized by love.
- Additionally, in marriage spouses are to pray for one another and help one another draw closer to the Lord. In the Christian view of marriage a commitment is being made between one another and before the Lord. As such, Christ should remain at the center of the marriage relationship.